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Narcissistic Mother Quiz
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Have I Experienced Narcissistic Abuse From My Mother?
The impacts of having a narcissistic mother can be immense. One of the first steps toward freedom and relief is recognizing what is actually happening. Once the patterns become clearer, you can begin choosing resources that support your path toward relief, growing confidence, and healing from the pain, confusion, and sense of being trapped that often come with having a narcissistic mother.
Directions:
Read each question and choose the response that best reflects your experience with your mother.
Disclaimer:
This quiz is for educational and awareness purposes only. It is not a medical diagnosis or professional evaluation. If you require clinical support, please contact a licensed medical or mental health professional.
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Characteristics of Narcissistic Parents and Caregivers
They…
Control and Guilt
- Make it hard to live your own life or hold your own thoughts and goals
- Involve themselves obsessively in your life
- Ignore your need for space and privacy
- Use guilt to steer you (“If you loved me…” “If you were a caring person…”)
- Shame you into doing what they want
- Make love, care, or provision depend on your compliance
- Give gifts you don’t want, or attach strings to the ones you do
Attention and Self-Focus
- Need attention constantly
- Turn every conversation back to themselves
- Ignore you unless they want something
- Take credit for your accomplishments
- End up the victim, no matter what happened
- Make holidays and birthdays miserable
- Resent you when you are hurt or sick
Lack of Empathy
- Lack genuine empathy, and fake it when it serves them
- Don’t listen to you or take an interest in your feelings
- Take far more from the relationship than they give
- Put you in the parent role
- Fail to protect you from harmful people, situations, or things
- Suck the life out of you
Competition and Envy
- Compete with you
- Rage when something good happens to or for you
- Keep a favorite child
Gaslighting and Confusion
- Tell you that you are crazy, confused, lying, or misremembering
- Start conversations and situations that leave you feeling crazy
- Lie to you constantly
- Conveniently “forget”
- Blame you for their own bad behavior
- Give compliments that are really put-downs
Image and Two Faces
- Treat you differently when other people are around
- Are charming in new relationships, which then end in conflict and blame
- Confide in others about you to turn them against you
- Pit people against each other (triangulation)
Anger and Retaliation
- React intensely to any criticism and insist on being right
- Try to “get even” for perceived wrongs
- Express rage silently or passive-aggressively
- Punish you with silence or withdrawal when you displease them
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