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Narcissistic Abuse Quiz
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Have I Experienced Narcissistic Abuse?
If you are confused, second-guessing yourself, and still not sure whether what happened was abuse, that confusion is a key sign of toxicity or abuse. This quiz lays out the common patterns so you can check your experience against them instead of against what you have been told.
Directions:
Read each statement and choose the response that best reflects how often this has occurred with an individual or group.
Disclaimer:
This quiz is for educational and awareness purposes only. It is not a medical diagnosis or professional evaluation. If you require clinical support, please contact a licensed medical or mental health professional.
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Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
Difficulties with Emotional Regulation
- Emotions that feel excessively intense
- Feeling nothing in situations that would normally stir an emotional response
- Difficulty labeling or understanding what you feel
- Avoiding emotions altogether
- Persistent sadness
- Anger that is explosive or impossible to reach
- Chronic numbness
- No emotional response where one would be expected
- Being unable to manage sudden changes in emotion
- Struggling to calm down after strong highs or lows
- Reactions out of proportion to the present situation (emotional flashbacks)
Difficulty with Self-Perception
- Believing you are all bad or fundamentally flawed
- Taking personal responsibility for what was done to you
- Believing you brought this on yourself, so you are unworthy of kindness, love, or help
- Feeling you are nothing more than what happened to you
- Feeling you are in the way or a burden to the people around you
- Believing you are completely different from other people
- Believing the person you were before the abuse is gone forever
Interruptions in Consciousness and Dissociation
- Poor memory of traumatic events, even ones you once recalled clearly
- Remembering events in a different order than they happened
- Feeling disconnected from your own body or thoughts
- Feeling unreal, or that everything has suddenly changed (things seem brighter, larger, farther away, or like a movie)
- Losing chunks of time
- Ongoing but intermittent trouble with memory
- Emotional flashbacks
- Body memories
Difficulty with Relationships
- Deep isolation and not knowing how to relate to others
- Difficulty trusting anyone, or knowing who can be trusted
- Trusting too easily and indiscriminately
- Constantly looking for someone to rescue you
- Unintentionally being drawn to people who are hurtful or abusive
- Abruptly leaving relationships that are going well
- Staying in relationships that are hurtful or abusive
Misperception of the Abuser
- Surrendering control to the abuser
- Believing you will always be under their control
- Believing they know better than you what is best for you
- Deep sadness or guilt after leaving, or even after thinking about leaving
- Attachment to the abuser’s charming or public persona
- Believing that since everyone else likes them, you must be the problem
- Believing it is shameful to think badly of them, or that doing so will make something bad happen
- Longing constantly for the abuser to love you
- Working excessively for their love and approval
- Persistent anger or hatred toward the abuser
- Recurring thoughts of revenge
- Feelings toward the abuser that swing dramatically, even to polar opposites like love and hate
Disrupted View of the World
- Difficulty believing, or even hoping, that justice will ever be served
- Doubting there is any real goodness or kindness in anyone
- Believing all goodness has selfish motives
- Believing you were put in this world to be hurt
- Deep despair
- Being unable to find any meaning in your suffering
- Being unable to believe life can get better
- Dramatic shifts in how you see the world
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Willow Life Coaching and Counseling, LLC does not provide medical care. If you are in need of care for a medical or psychiatric condition, please consult a licensed medical provider. If you are having an emergency, call 911. For a mental health crisis, call or text 988.